Whether it is a special dish from our childhood, a piece of music that we connect to, or a show in our primary language, we all have elements of our culture that bring us peace and comfort. So when one is suddenly forced to move out of our home and become part of a much larger community in long-term care, it can be difficult to maintain our identity. Sometimes, it is the subtle reminders of our culture that can make the biggest difference in helping residents find their place in the care home.
My mom is 99 years old. For the past 20 years, she had clearly stated that she wanted to die at home. We had everything set up to respect her wishes, but about 8 years ago, I had to move out of the country. We tried everything we could to continue to support her to live at home but she struggled to cope once I moved away.
We knew we needed to try something different. Mom is a highly sociable person so my brother and I felt that if we could find her the right care home, there was a chance that she would do well. Specifically, if she was able to get the food that she wanted, we knew that she would adjust. So, in our search for care homes, we had one requirement that was non-negotiable: they had to serve congee. We wanted to get mum adjusted quickly to her new home and the way to do this was through her stomach.
SUCCESS met that requirement and then some. Not only did mom get congee every morning, she would also go on and on about the fried rice noodles (ho fun) that they served. A Chinese chef cooks the meals and that does not go unnoticed. Over Chinese New Year, they brought in dim sum and that was such a treat for my mom. She has trouble with her memory these days but she definitely remembers the dim sum!
Culturally, my mom is in the right place. She is lucky that she is able to speak English so she would manage even in a non-Chinese home, but she really loves it when the laundry staff hold good, deep conversations with her in Mandarin and Cantonese. It makes her feel seen. The staff at the home have also asked her to help be a translator for some of their mandarin speaking residents. She is so happy to be given that role. I believe that my mom is thriving because of the cultural background of SUCCESS. She isn’t living out the rest of her life at home as she had intended, but at least she is surrounded by things that she is familiar with and that bring her comfort and joy.